@ami_angelwings I was strongly influenced by two books I found in library sales. One was on dealing with procrastination and the other one on creating positive habits. I can't remember the titles or the authors.

The procrastination book was good because it asked to fill your schedule of what you actually do. Doing this made me realize that I had very little free time. I couldn't physically do most of what I had to do. It wasn't avoidance, it was lack of time. It brought me peace.

The personal goal one was based on behaviorism. It seems to make sense. It should work. For most things, it doesn't work.

Why is this good? Because ir gave me the insight that behaviorism was flawed. Behaviorism can't modify physical issues like metabolic problems or being addicted to nicotine or alcohol. It can't overcome lack of time.

It works well via CBT for people of a certain generation, because it is about thinking habits. It is successful for inducing addiction, although we later discovered that it works through the manipulation of dopamine.

Learning how limited something that seem to be so self evident has helped me to both experiment myself with ideas to see if they work and to be skeptical of similar philosophies that should work, but don't, like economics