today was way too much for me and i am melting down into a puddle
on the plus side i got more people to stop misgendering me so much and i've only been deadnamed once, and he accepted the gentle correction
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Also I learned from a distant cousin on my dad’s side that there is a family history of Crohn’s (including herself), and I mentioned this to my parents and my mom denied that there has been and my dad said “this is the first I’ve heard of it” but he also didn’t even know this cousin existed more than a year ago so call me hesitant to take him at his word
Wellp just got deadnamed by my mom and she was annoyed about the correction
also even though she knows I'm in meltdown conditions right now she tried to put me to work with more food prep for tomorrow
and tomorrow I also have to get up at 7 in the fucking morning, and even getting that information was like extracting soup from a stone
This morning I dragged myself out of bed and barely was able to feed myself and now she’s asking me to cut some fucking grapes
Nobody fucking cares about the goddamn grapes
Like what’s more important, having beautifully sliced grapes for the reception or having me recite the invocation of the Torah reading?
I told her I’m exhausted
She said I’d just be sitting there cutting grapes
Fuck this shit so much
My brother is running interference now. I super appreciate it
I shouldn’t have fucking come
I’ve dropped out of the ceremony. My sister understands. Whatever my parents think doesn’t matter.
So I’m just going to be alone in my parents house all day missing the ceremony that I came all the way here for, and I feel awful about missing the important thing. But at least I got to see my nieces and congratulate them and give them some travel money
My sister told me I didn’t have to come because she knows about my health issues but I really wanted to come
the ceremony is starting in 5 minutes and here i am stuck alone at my parents' house lying in bed and feeling sad
of course now I feel like I could have gone but that's just the decompression talking. I'm sure if I were to start to make moves towards the synagogue I'd collapse again.
if my mom tells me that this is more proof I need to move back here to have people to take care of me I'm going to tell her I'd rather fucking die, and mean it.
she seems to think that this is the only place that there are people who care about me but
1) the way they show that caring fucking sucks
2) it's my sister who thrived (and continues to thrive) here, I never really got along with New Mexico
3) the last thing I need is to be in arms reach of my mom
@fluffy mom needs to go to bed, deadnaming and denying fam medical history bc she doesnt like the idea of disabilities. shes getting all cranky white lady boomer abt realities that challenge her comforts and needs to go to bed
@hi_cial she's been doing a lot for this bat mitzvah for the last couple months (despite my sister telling her she really doesn't need to kill herself over this) and this week has been extra stressful for her (of her own doing) and she also thinks there's a bunch more she needs to do and now she's trying to delegate it to me
@fluffy