I put this in a reply but I feel like it is worth removing the kink part and making a non-CW'd post

One thing I learned in these 30 years and 11 in relationships is that fairness in a relationship is not about doing the same things to each other. Is putting the same amount of energy into the relationship.

Personally I'll happily make breakfast in bed for someone, I'll learn new recipes to cook what they enjoy, and I will (to a fault) be there to encourage or support partners through every tiny thing.

But I don't need these things done to me. Support is obviously important, but it doesn't have to be the same way, and I hate staying in bed for a long time, so someone bringing me breakfast in bed would be actively horrible.

On the other hand, I SUCK at planning anything special, anniversaries, birthdays, anything of that sort comes up and I'll have a panic attack if I try to do anything. If I'm expected to do that, things are going to fall apart.

Most importantly, though, what I would consider a fair relationship with someone who likes planning special days and things is that they'll do that, and I'll make special coffee thinking of them. Because, if they enjoy planning, it's not a chore to put that energy on it, and I enjoy making coffee, so the energy of figuring out how they like it, and taking longer to get my coffee in the morning, is no issue at all.

I say this with a harmless example, but I've had partners worry that they don't do enough for me because of how I support them and they don't do it the same way, but then if I bring up the support they have me they go "yeah, but that was nothing to me" and that's what feels fair to me, because me supporting them usually also feels like nothing special, just something I do because I care for the relationship

I guess this is kinda rambly, but hopefully there's some useful thoughts on relationships buried here

"For the past few months, our manager has been pushing us not to write code ourselves. In fact, they told us to uninstall VS Code and use only Claude Code or T3 Code. They told us that from now on, everyone should be able to take responsibility for both the frontend and backend, and that there is no need to learn or write code."

https://www.reddit.com/r/softwareengineer/s/EmTN2DQxsq

@glynmoody

The most plausible speculation is still only speculation, even if you automate it so the biases and influences that feed into the speculation are spread over a mathematical model instead of in a researcher's head.

If the LLM fills in a gap with something that the text around it doesn't *directly support* then it's not unlocking secrets or uncovering anything, it's making shit up.

How do YOU optimize for disappointment?

Do you seek out opportunities to rehearse and broadcast that skill?

Or do you see disappointment as something one can observe and move on from?

BOTH are ways to optimize for disappointment, and BOTH are available to you at any time.

https://SubGenius.com

@ewyn @katzenjens Hier mein Beschwerdeversuch bei Amazon darüber, dass die Lieferanten nicht mehr klingeln…. 🤦‍♂️

YouTubeのコメント欄は読まないほうがいいですよ4

eMudhra are responsible for a lot, sure, but they aren't the ones responsible for scattering an unspecified number of copies of a compromised CA certificate inside all sorts of executable code in my otherwise perfectly up to date system.

#python #rust #flatpak #docker #podman and who knows what else, deserve the same fingerpointing meme treatment as eMudhra right now, as far as I'm concerned

@aral @EUCommission Everything is AI now so it basically only exists in name only.

Today I saw one of the weirdest and coolest sea slugs I've ever seen and it was in New Hampshire. This is Elysia chlorotica, a slug that eats algae and steals its chloroplasts to use for photosynthesis. Yes, this slug is solar powered!

#seaslugs #underwaterphotography #macro #om1 #NewEngland 🦑 📷

Handy klingelt. Nummer meiner Bank. Hm. Ich gehe dran und melde mich. Antwort: "Schönen Guten Tag Herr U. Ich rufe an wegen einer Sicherheitslücke und brauche ihre Mithilfe." Ich: "Schönen Guten Tag, ist das Wetter bei Ihnen auch stürmisch?" "Als eine KI habe ich keinen realen Aufenthaltsort und kann Ihnen daher keine Auskunft geben." "Doch, das war genau die richtige Auskunft. Auf Wiedersehen." 🤣

Funfact. Bis zu dieser Antwort war ich sogar einigermaßen sicher, einen Menschen am anderen Ende zu haben. Akustisch wird es schwieriger, KI zu erkennen. Aber es bleiben Maschinen. Direkt meine Bank informiert.

Bei überraschenden Anrufen frage ich immer nebenbei nach Wetter oder anderen obskuren Dingen. Meist um die Leute zu verwirren. #scam

RE: https://circumstances.run/@davidgerard/117446903957455880

A golden opportunity for indie game devs..

@majorlinux i wish they would stop selling them at all. make Tesla go away plzkthx

@alisynthesis @ranjit

I had to pay an extra 45p for the orange one. But that's a sacrifice that had to be made.

@TheBreadmonkey And you, and you!

@nocci und es drückt auch noch alle meine Knöpfe 😁