@neil you make a point here that touches with my awful experience of sexual assault as a child. For a long time afterwards I did not trust any man.

Obviously, not that every man posed imminent danger to me, but I could no longer interpret how a man would look at me. Every time a man looked at me in the street, I wanted to fold myself up, so he couldn't see the parts of me that made me woman-ish.

It was not the fault of those men, but I could no longer process what might constitute danger.

@neil This, although I have just muted someone for a long blog post saying that statistics show that it's literally every man literally offering violence to women, even gay men? OP looked male to me -- no pronouns in bio -- so I assume they were including themselves?

Lots of confused thinking about this, I think. Not your post, though.