"You have strong opinions."
My response: "Thank you! People with weak opinions aren't worth much energy. Thanks for using your energy for delivering a backhanded compliment. You gave me energy because I'm stronger than you'll ever be. Stay jealous."
Walk away & don't even give them a look back. Let people who think giving backhanded compliments is a good idea - suffer their own public consequences, when they run into people like me who bark back better & louder.
@PhoenixSerenity I mean, in the context of every opinion I know you to have, I don't see why strong opinions would be a bad thing.
The whole thread goes into topics I fear probably ring hollow coming from me as an American. I don't know how much consolation it is that my family's religious upbringing means that I, my parents, and their parents from a relatively young age, were forbidden from any military service, even non-combatitive roles. I have to go as far back as a great uncle who fought in the second World War and during one of the earlier escapades of responding to ideology with bombs and chemical warfare. I suspect my family probably has more Korean and Japanese blood on its hands than Vietnamese for this reason. Not zero, because the injunction against military service came from the same place as an injunction against election or protest participation.
The people I truly loathe more than anything are the generals and politicians who either got to die in old age or are still using the abstraction of being behind a chair and killing with words rather than on the ground and with a gun to pretend they're innocent.
Meanwhile, I'm nervous if my Southern accent comes out around some of the Vietnamese people I know locally because I know, if not for them, then someone they're related to associates English spoken in that accent with incomprehensible death and destruction. It doesn't help they're far from the only group I worry about that with.
I'd probably take solace in the fact the Vietnam vets on the US side also got cancer en masse even if they somehow avoided PTSD if I were in your position too. I don't think they should be left to rot, but if I had the power to enact that change, I'd also reassign every remaining able bodied troop to building infrastructure as the locals see fit and every red cent of the budget after that would be for the veteran's medical bills and and army to defend against a combatant within their own damned borders for however long it takes for militaries to no longer be necessary anywhere on Earth.