Got some unwelcome news first thing today: Someone I've known for many years recently took their own life. Feeling angry and sad and like a shit friend because we lost touch at some point, and I had no idea of their struggles. But I definitely could have been more curious. My response so far since hearing this news has been to reach out to a few people I've not checked in w/ for a while.
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@briankrebs wow, sorry for your loss 
You'll always feel like there's something you could have done. It's inescapable.
@briankrebs I’m so sorry.
@briankrebs I do believe we get in touch with lots of people and lose contact with many of them. It is hard to stay in touch with all of them. I do believe, it does not help to feel guilty. But it helps, as you stated, as I see it, to look to the ones around you, you are in touch with. Many people who have downs or get depressed are very good hiding it. We are humans, not prophets.
To me, it sometimes helps to just talk to someone and listen. Active listening. Instead of replying to a statement, say: Tell me more. Just this.
I am constantly surprised how much this changes the communication and the thing, the opposite tells me.
I don’t know you. But what I read from you makes me believe you are a good friend, to the people close to you. YMMV
@briankrebs I am so sorry for your loss. I hope you will be ok.
@briankrebs I’m very sorry, Brian. Wishing you peace.
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Condolences friend and hoping you find comfort in your memories of your friend
@briankrebs Sad news. The only good to come of such losses is if they inspire us to be kind to others, and to connect more.
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I’m so sorry for your loss. 🫂
*Be kind to yourself, please. Sending love and peace.
@briankrebs you learn, that‘s the key part. I am single, living alone, seem to be a bad guy because hardly anyone wants to have to do something with me. I could die and lie in my flat for three weeks and no one would notice until the neighbors smell it.
I try hard with the few guys I am in touch with to be aware and careful… Not sure what this means to them.
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I'm so sorry.
Big hug.
This happened to me. Big brother, 26 years ago.
Still hard.
@briankrebs sorry to hear. I lost a dear friend & guitarist more than a decade ago. I try to play some of his songs weekly.
Celebrate them by reminiscing the good memories whenever you can.