TIL the fediverse basically DDOS's sites when you share a link.
I shared a link from NPR Tiny Desk but there was no image preview or video embed. After investigating this I learned that when you do that, each instance picks up the link and individually retrieves the link preview nearly simultaneously. For gargantuan sites like YT or Reddit, this is a trivial amount of traffic and not a problem, but for smaller sites like NPR this results in a sort of botnet DDOS attack on the site’s servers. More here. Another example here . For that reason, NPR has blocked Fediverse servers like Mastodon.
I have experienced this on my personal server as well (DDOS), but at the time didn’t know why, exactly.
This isn’t the end of the world, but certainly is not great and hurts engagement with the content. Is there a solution for this? Perhaps using some sort of webtorrent service like PeerTube where they just fetch the information from another fediverse server instead of the source server? Maybe fetching embeds client-side? At least that would stagger the requests.

I’m not exactly sure why a web server can’t handle legit web traffic, just because it’s a lot? I agree that smaller actors should be given a little breastfeeding but solving it on the other side is bad architecture. A legit request can never be compared to a a ddos attack, the overloaded net has to throttle and then the instances need to retry with a generous enough delay.
Options for solutions to another systems problems are all going to introduce more problems. Sure, the requests could honestly be routed to a cache and it would help this problem, att least until it breaks or is exploited. But it would never be truly solved that way.