A social media text post by deadlylittlekate titled "Autistic People Accommodate Non-Autistic People ALL THE TIME". The body text reads:
"I was journalling and talking about my usual frustrations with how I can't just be blunt, and how I have carefully construct my sentences so that the non-autistic person I'm talking to doesn't misunderstand me and become offended. Or consider me rude, malicious, etc.
I've also recently been having some issues with getting sensory accommodation. And people finding my stims annoying.
And I was finally able to put my frustrations into words: I'm constantly having to accommodate non-autistic people, but they can't be bothered to accommodate me.
Because here's the thing: autistics and non-autistics are like two computer systems that are mostly incompatible, but can work together with a little effort. But the burden of getting us to a compatible level is placed solely on the autistics' shoulders. Any amount that the non-autistic person has to do is too much.
We aren't asking you to go out of your way for us, we're asking you to meet us in the middle so that we don't have to go so far out of our way for you."
@jeffowski It's a matter of perspective!
Me and a group of ham radio operators gather each morning, sip coffee and discuss the issues of the day. We have a new AUTISTIC person joining in. He is intelligent but can't read the room. He butts in, talking over people. He completely sabotages ongoing discussions to present his issues in extreme detail. We have accommodated him for weeks. There is no middle and we have tried! 12 of us and 1 of him. Coffee consumption is up, participation down.