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Things in my life seem to be getting at least a little easier as I manage to defang the shame feedback loops somewhat.
It’s a lot easier to, say, use a todo system when I’m not deeply ashamed of the backlog.
It’s a lot easier to think about what I’m going to be doing when I’m not ashamed of what I haven’t done.
It’s a lot easier to want to do things when I’m not ashamed at the idea of doing them wrong.
@stephen It really does, and it's been really painful to look at the backlog and feel like I'm a complete failure for not addressing it.
I've started to figure out where at least some of this is coming from at least.
I’ve been trying to articulate what’s changed, how I’m seeing the shame,
And it’s as simple as “feeling shame is a choice and I’m choosing to let the feeling pass through me”,
But I’m really struggling to put to words why that’s possible now, when it wasn’t before.
@aurynn this is amazing, i love this so much for you.
things change, the way we regard things change, maybe you won't be able to pinpoint why until a few more months have passed. Different vantage points.
@exlibrarykris its going to be a lot of journaling to try to identify what changed and get it into words.
Hopefully so I can help others find the same, since being trapped in our own shame is so devastating.
@aurynn even knowing that it's possible is inspirational ❤️
@aurynn I feel like “how to make that possible” is one of the Great Unsolved Problems in society at large. Incredible that you managed it ❤️
@Catfish_Man it’s only taken, what, 40-odd years? Easy amirite
thank you friend.